Thinking about your own funeral

Our funerals are our emotional legacy.  They really matter.  They can help the people who survive us to begin to work out how to live their lives without us.  

Thinking about your own funeral doesn’t mean you need to plan every detail.  Leaving no instructions can be disconcerting for the people arranging your funeral, who may wonder what you would have wanted, but leaving detailed and prescriptive instructions can cause even more stress. The best kind of funeral plans are a loose framework allowing the people arranging and attending the funeral to do whatever they need to do.

Remember - A good funeral is created with the belief that funerals honour the dead but are for the benefit of the living.  

Things you need to know:
- A funeral plan isn’t static.  It can change over time. As your life changes, so will your funeral.
- Funeral wishes aren’t legally binding. It’s a good idea to talk to the people who will arrange your funeral about what you want to happen, although they are under no legal obligation to follow your wishes.
- The funeral plan industry is currently being investigated by the government, who will soon introduce regulation to stamp out bad practise, dubious claims and exploitative sales tactics. If you want to pay for your funeral in advance, look into ethical funeral plans such as the Good Funeral Guide Pre-Paid Funeral Plan or simply put the money into a savings account which can be accessed after your death by your executors.   

Essential resources:
- The Good Funeral Guide
- The Natural Death Centre
- Five Things you really need to know about funerals by Fran Hall